Paradox of NLP Practitioners

How Coaches can become better at maintaining relationships in business and life. One of the things which almost everyone runs after in life is relationships, one of the things which almost most people don’t understand well is how to keep relationships. A strange paradox, isn’t it?  This post is about the Paradox of NLP Practitioners, who at times forget their own skills of having access to exceptional communication knowledge.

Extraordinarily successful coaches have the knack of winning over and influencing people. Consider any successful life coach, leadership coach, executive coach, business coach, career coach, etc you know. Look closely and you will find that all top-notch coaches focus not just on networking with people, but also on keeping the network alive and active. They continually invest time and effort in becoming better at not just creating, but also at maintaining relationships- both personal as well as professional. It’s not as easy and simple as it sounds.

If you are an NLP Practitioner or an NLP Coach, you would have already known that relationships are not just a byproduct of the interaction between people. Instead, relationships are the kaleidoscope of connections formed between “different” people – the visually, kinaesthetically, and auditorily guided individuals busy perceiving reality from their own range of lenses and filters.  Excellent communication and networking skills are the hallmarks of the best NLP trainers in the world.

Though much has been said and written about the importance of networking in business and personal life, and creating better first impressions, not many insights have been shared on the effective ways of
nurturing and preserving those first impressions.  This post about the Paradox of NLP Practitioners highlights the golden rules for becoming better at maintaining relationships for a successful and fulfilling coaching career:-

Deep down every person has a strong desire to experience meaningful connections with others. What’s important is to understand the meaning of a ‘meaningful’ experience for the other person. Though a quick call may work absolutely well with an auditory person, it may not for a visual one. So, be wise at deciding whether you should send a message or have a small meeting to stay in contact. Choose the mode of communication that works better for the other person.

According to NLP, different people process information differently. They operate using different interests, attention spans, beliefs, values, attitudes, perceptions etc. They have different styles and preferences when it comes to communicating. Some share, some don’t share much. Some like topics from the past, some enjoy discussing future plans. Some are verbose, some are frugal with words. None is better or worse. It is simply how they are programmed. So don’t build walls of expectation. Pay attention, focus on building the bridge, and strike the right balance where neither you compromise too much, nor them. Also, keep away the termites of baseless assumptions.

NLP believes that people are not their behaviors. They make the best choice available to them at any given point in time, with a positive intention for themselves. Forgiveness definitely makes good business sense. So, tie no weight of grudges to your ankles, and don’t judge the story by a chapter you walked in on. No matter how much you try, you can’t see, hear, or feel exactly what had happened at that point in time.

NLP believes that people respond to their experiences, not to reality itself. So, be your best self authentic and genuine. Don’t try to change anyone. Loosen up the strings and let your fingers be free from pain. Everybody is wired differently. Understand better the neuroscience behind how people react and respond.

Sincerely value people, not just the value you will get from the relationship in the long run.

Most importantly, you must strive to do all the good you can, in the best possible ways, as long as possible!

Should you wish to become efficient at building better relationships with your clients and with people who matter to you, join our online Integrated NLP Practitioner and Coach Training Program or at a location of your convenience.

If you are an NLP Coach are not able to make a living as a coach, then it is time to use NLP on yourself.  Go deep into NLP, and you will be able to find a path for yourself using the very principles of NLP which led to NLP in the first place.