Paradox of NLP Practitioners

How Coaches can become better at maintaining relationships in business and life

 

One of the things which almost every one runs after in life is relationships, one of the things which almost most people don’t understand well is how to keep relationships. A strange paradox, isn’t it?

 

Extraordinarily successful coaches have the knack of winning over and influencing people. Consider any successful life coach, leadership coach, executive coach, business coach, career coach etc you know. Look closely and you will find that all top notch coaches focus not just on networking with people, but also on keeping the network alive and active. They continually invest time and effort in becoming better at not just creating, but also at maintaining relationships- both personal as well as professional. It’s not as easy and simple as it sounds.

 

If you are an NLP Practitioner or an NLP Coach, you would have already known that relationships are not just a byproduct of interaction between people. Instead, relationships are the kaleidoscope of connection formed between “different” people – the visually, kinaesthetically, and auditorily guided individuals busy perceiving reality from their own range of lenses and filters.

 

Though much has been said and written about the importance of networking in business and personal life, and creating better first impressions, not much insights have been shared on the effective ways of
nurturing and preserving those first impressions. So read further if you want to know the golden rules for becoming better at maintaining relationships for a successful and fulfilling coaching career:-

 

Rule #1: Check in regularly and don’t be annoying.
Deep down every person has a strong desire to experience meaningful connection with others. What’s important is to understand the meaning of ‘meaningful’ experience for the other person. Though a quick call may work absolutely well with an auditory person, it may not for a visual one. So, be wise at deciding whether you should send a message or have a small meeting to stay in contact. Choose the mode of communication that works better for the other person.

 

Rule #2: Appreciate similarities, respect differences.
According to NLP, different people process information differently. They operate using different interests, attention spans, beliefs, values, attitudes, perception etc. They have different styles and preferences when it comes to communicating. Some share, some don’t share much. Some like topics from the past, some enjoy discussing future plans. Some are verbose, some are frugal with words. None is better or worse. It is simply how they are programmed. So don’t build walls of expectation. Pay attention, focus on building the bridge, and strike the right balance where neither you compromise too much, nor them. Also, keep away the termites of baseless assumptions.

 

Rule #3: Learn to forgive easily whether or not you chose to forget.
NLP believes that people are not their behaviours. They make the best choice available to them at any given point in time, with a positive intention for themselves. Forgiveness definitely makes a good business sense. So, tie no weight of grudges to your ankles and don’t judge the story by a chapter you walked in on. No matter how much you try, you can’t see, hear, or feel exactly what had happened at that point in time.

 

Rule #4: Don’t try to defeat people, instead try to win them over.
NLP believes that people respond to their experiences, not to reality itself. So, be your best self- authentic and genuine. Don’t try to change anyone. Loosen up the strings and let your fingers be free from pain. Everybody is wired differently. Understand better the neuroscience behind how people react and respond.

 

Rule #5 : Do what you did in the beginning, and there won’t be an end.
Sincerely value people, not just the value you will get from the relationship in the long run.

 

Most importantly, you must strive to do all the good you can, in best possible ways, as long as possible!

 

Should you wish you to become efficient at building better relationships with your clients and with people who matter to you, join our Integrated NLP Practitioner and Coach Training Program at a location of your convenience.

 

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